Grooming mature women

There’s been quite a lot recently about the noxious activity of grooming girls for sex and men’s exploitation. Interestingly enough it always seems to be the girls from care homes or less fortunate of our society. This set me wondering if it were possible that a married intelligent girl could be groomed. I had witnessed enough women in the thirty to forty age group making fools of themselves when I worked in industry to know that it was quite possible. I guess there comes a time in many women’s lives when their situation has become humdrum, even boring, at times like this the chance of a little secret excitement can be overwhelmingly attractive. It’ll be fun and no one need know, at least that’s how it starts this either leads to disappointment or further involvement.

It would be in the latter case that grooming could take place as an illicit relationship grows from “I can handle this” to “I never want this to end” the dependence on the relationship grows to the point when it can be a secret no longer. Whilst this is the woman’s case it may not be so from the man’s perspective, men in general do not place the same importance on a sexual relationship. This of course can lead to the woman being used, especially if there is a reason for the man to use her. In this situation it takes very little imagination to see how this can lead to the grooming of bored but mature rational women.

It was these thought that lead to the writing of ‘Seducing Judi’, Judi was a bright married secretary with Irish ancestry who with a little encouragement from him and against her better judgement fell for a junior manager it the factory. Naturally he was flattered and took advantage of what was offered but unknown to either of them he was mentally damaged from the effect of fighting the IRA in Ireland. As their relationship developed so did his erratic behaviour.

The sex in the book is not explicit, it is rather suggested not always by inference but I take the view that imagination is far more powerful than anything I could write. Anyone who has had an adequate sex life should be able to interpret in their own mind what’s happening even if they have to exaggerate a little. I do like to have a reason for writing a book, so this as well as a warning to the naive is a comment on the treatment or lack of it of ex-soldiers in the past.